When was the last time we remember them ...?
Reflections on a victim of abuse (which does not recognize that it is ...)
"Nothing that you say, if anyone tells you, you serve.
Nobody really understands what happens to you, and always the same, I criticize, I say "who does not love you", "who insults you," who puts you down "... and so much style. "It very easy to talk from outside. "
Yes, what you say is true. But you know that something is not working in your relationships.
Something is going as it should go and every passing day feel less forces you to understand, so every time you talk less of it or even think about it less. After all only happens from time to time, and when it happens you know it's because he's had a bad day because he loves you and you know what he says and makes you not feel real. He has said many times, and if you have not already, do not worry: you will!
- "I'm sorry, today I had a bad day at work ... that they only serve not sorry for fucking truth. "
And so you know it?
After all you're a nurse, working in a hospital for a long time and have never questioned your worth.
That's why I apologized, his words have been caused by a heater, "anyone can have a bad day." And when that happens is they say and do things that they feel or think.
You love a lot. There is more to see you every day. Already seven years of dating and have just a mortgage to buy a house and go away to live together. Everybody says, "You are made for each other." What's
then so much trouble on your part? You're exaggerating and seeing
storms where there are only a few clouds. Nothing happens. It's normal for couples to go through bad times, but remember that these bad times strengthen the family, because if true love, it always comes out ahead.
He loves you very much. Do not you remember what you said? "If not for me you'd be alone. Who will want to pay someone like you?
must not be selfish. Is your man, your partner, the father of your children, the person with whom you share the rest of your life. And if at times has "suddenly ill" and is slipping an insult or a slap , help rather than ordered. Or do you not make mistakes? ".
Unfortunately, this reflection is not fictitious but is built from a conversation I had with a friend of that person, in which I explained the conversations they had between them.
The most serious, since the phenomenon of abuse can always be worse is that these words could be applied to two girls over 15 and 20 years, high school and college. But do not believe that the star of our thinking is very old, only 25 years.
How long are we going to allow?
As recognized by the UN and the European Union, one of the problems serious ethical and political societies have today is the problem of equality between women and men.
What are we doing to fix it really ...?
Law 1 / 2004 of 28 December on Integral Protection Measures against Gender Violence, gives an important weight to education (Statement of Reasons I and II) and requires the education community to develop strategies and mechanisms that allow recognition of principles and values \u200b\u200bthat promote equality generic at the same time make it impossible behaviors and values \u200b\u200baimed at domestic violence, both from the perspective of the students (Article 1, points 1.4 and 5, which are related secondary education and Bachillerato) and from the perspective of teachers (Article 7).
What strategies are being implemented ...?
Meanwhile, as usual ... waiting for us tomorrow or the next fatality count (how much we take to get to 40?), which are the only ones whose count is done daily, the rest ...
1. Why abused women only recognize physical abuse?
2. Why say that when it hits them, their partner is a behavior, we might point out, ideal (what is expected of a couple who loves you) about them?
3. Why which support the abusive situation over many years?
4. Why are we responsible to the victims of abuse?
5. Why not get that domestic violence (and the situation of women) is recognized as one of the major problems of society?
6. Why is it so difficult to recognize women as the prototypical victim of domestic violence?
7. Why domestic violence is growing?
8. Why is the situation of women continues to deteriorate?
9. Why to be a woman in the world must be like a man? Etc. These are
some of the issues relevant place is still much to do in the fight against domestic violence. And, moreover, show that research must begin to move to other places where the statistics are not enough, as family and schools.
In fact, we can only answer these questions if we can understand the type of situations that lie behind these questions, if we can understand what it means to be a woman within a human community, for what is necessary to delve into the universe of the family as a meaningful context of interactions between women (mother, wife, partner, etc..) and men (father, spouse, partner, etc.)..
But in addition, every effort must be comprehensive in its broadest sense, so it is necessary to transfer the research into areas of intervention such as classrooms, both from a theoretical and practical which will allow us to develop all a set of mechanisms of immediate practical application, through tutorials.
The goal: that students can recognize in themselves the values \u200b\u200bthat enable domestic violence and gender discrimination, and from that recognition to establish strategies for behavior correction and transformation of values \u200b\u200bin itself and the Moreover, self-oriented in the case of them, and self-control in their case.
But we are not to be overlooked that all these issues can only be covered from the culture, ie from the structural framework that makes up the mode-of-being of women in relation to the mode-of-being masculine, what ultimately should be to build a descriptive model from which we can answer questions such as:
1. Structural causes (complementary), resulting in domestic violence.
2. The aprehendizaje of these structures.
3. The structural arrangements that may allow changes in emotional value systems that underlie this phenomenon, so that we can replace the complementary structure from which relationships are formed male> female> male ... and one that is reciprocal.
It therefore remains to be done and we must not lower our guard in the fight against domestic violence, beyond the November 25 and March 8 reside times and places where the victims are forgotten and the perpetrators feel safe.
PS: I designed a series of experiments to work in the classroom (tutoring 4 ยบ ESO): Does anyone involved in this project? Do you know someone who wants to do ...?
Thanks.
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