Thanks for writing, as this blog thing lately was stopped.
With respect to your contribution I want to answer it to the three statements containing:
1. I do not think we should think that the problem of violence is trivialized in society. Rather CRRE not enough to see its profound implications, or not interested politically and economically speaking: NOT YOU FORGET THAT THE WOMAN IS A RIVAL TO THE MAN IN THE LABOR MARKET, POLITICAL AND ECONOMIC.
2. It is fundamentally a moral issue, nor is psychological and sociological, but extends to all institutions and human dimensions, and also gets involved in the structural aspects of our nature: THE DIFFERENCE BEING OUR PRIMATES MODES OF FOREIGN AS WELL AS BEING Animals · COMMUNITY.
3. Evangelistic organizations (the Catholic Church, and all other faiths) are doing a disservice to the solution of this problem. But hey, this is expected since religious systems are very reactionary and this expression must be understood as value judgments, but should be seen as a finding of a systemic phenomenon: CULTURE REAGENTS TO PROVIDE MECHANISMS FOR SOCIAL STRUCTURE IS "STABLE" (evidence is important to define the "stability").
4. My proposal has always been simple: stability can be defined differently, if we organize ourselves differently, as additional interest ...
ete Along blog, all entries, give an explanation for eto can be more or less understood. And in the just published book: Mae's loneliness. Anthropological research on domestic violence, , Editorial Fundamentos, is all the explanation in the right way and complete (at least I hope). Although I will add that this is a damn book.
could sum up they said there are too many biases and prejudices that make the problem of domestic violence is addressed from individuals and not from the forms of relationship of those individuals. But make no mistake, it is also a matter of economic and political interests: What are we willing to give to solve the problem of domestic violence?
Let the CIS and enlightening look at a figure more than 81% of English still consider the family as the most important of our lives, second only to for health (86%). And the family is not a problem, but a "blessing" is not a place of conflict, but the sabbath is not a place of hostility, but of love ...
No more than 70 dead a year we reacted! We
considering the family as the proper place where people we adapt to what we are like animals, like humans, as individuals and as citizens. It is important, essential, original, founding and it is evident that it can not find any connection with the abuse. Because obviously, those families in which abuse occurs are not real families are dysfunctional, whatever that may mean.
Well, close to the family, and more with "bad intentions" is not a simple matter, for three main reasons having to do with the community:
1. Because we are talking about a very complex interaction that connects individuals to the community to which he belongs. In this sense, the family (intersubjective context) is the space in ways that make you think and feel emotionally the reality of individuals (which are taxable), but its purpose does not end in itself but in the community .
2. Because it is still sacred to both individuals and institutions as conservative is the first barrier that the community has to stop the creative dynamism or destructive individuals (subjectivity), which can be development but also, disorganization, chaos, etc..
3. Because being an emotional space composed of "those who matter", the control mechanisms of the interactions (resolution of any conflict, regulation of paternal and maternal tasks, etc.) Carried out in the field of privacy and disinterest (economic, political, etc.), thereby saving the community many conflicts and many institutional mechanisms to solve them.
In short, it saves a lot of money. A slap from a teacher, say, a child in a school may end up requiring the presence (existence) of police, lawyers, judges, etc., and yet, the act becomes a pedagogical punishment if it occurs in the family.
could also refer to the care of the elderly. Can you imagine the cost saving to the state women when dealing with the care of elderly and disabled family members?
Complexity, self-preservation and economics three reasons powerful enough that we keep talking about the family as a private sphere of individuals in which no one should break. So problems that are specific and distinct begin and end within the boundaries of home and, as there is love, affection, etc.., the solution is a matter of improving communication.
But let's go down and Let 's hit the skies where angels fear to tread. It's my world and yours: a world of reason with passions and passions to reason, in which everyday women face daily domestic relations system in which the shape desired and expected the two poles between which it operates its existence.
Nobody denies there are problems, even that they are serious: they recognize over 77% of women who have researched. What can you expect from a "family affair? ... The troubles, riots, discussions, fighting pain ... although undesirable, are expected in a relationship. But do not think that this way of entering the world as real and pragmatic, experienced women draws on the vicissitudes of daily existence, as the 78.26% of those under age 21 acknowledge this view as their own .
And who would deny this?
found I hear voices of angels and demons malicious naive (or was it vice versa?):
The relationships are also of love, understanding, companionship, sexuality (this will only say the demons, of course), etc.
And who would deny this?
But ... no, not continue on this path, for now. Keep me the blessed and malicious, the realists and idealists, rationalists and feeling (al) ist ... Whatever they are and why they are. Prohibited from occupying the land and see what we can discover.
To begin, one question: What happens with the remaining 33%? Simply denying any negative feedback in regard to domestic relations. Yes, there are bad times, but these are what make the relationship grow and strengthen. It is a percentage rather high call it: emotional naivete.
Next, look at that 94.2% of women, including victims abuse you, he pragmatically say that communication is the solution to problems between couples. Coming to admit that one of the factors of domestic violence is the lack of communication between partners, which enables the problems can be accumulated and end up detonating in an abusive situation. Let us be bold and also call this phenomenon: emotional naivete.
And finally, only 5.8% occur to them to say that "the stories are finished" and that everyone must go their own way. What
vices and virtues are hidden behind these modes of thinking and feeling relationships between men and women?
A simple and complex answer: the solution of women's issues.
What do I mean? Very simple: we continue to believe that domestic violence is a situation that has to do only with individuals or companies called sexist, and we realize that the woman question is, was and is a State issue: economy, relationships social, birth, organization, institutions, etc., and that's something we do not want, do we know? face.
For this reason, we built a system of values \u200b\u200bby which we represent a domestic universe sustained by three pillars:
1. The belief that relationships are the private sector is and thus, away from the public. In this sense, the family is interpreted as a kind of limbo, paradise, where individuals are transformed into a complete and independent body, oblivious to the vicissitudes of daily life and the political right. How much would enter the realm of morality.
2. The belief that the relationship between men and women is, at least, emotionally timeless and necessary, until death do us part, and if the relationship is not right: it is a matter of discussion!, Commitment, understanding about to the relationship and, if necessary, sacrifice unidirectional (in the vast majority of cases).
3. Belief that domestic violence is a problem (and therefore may disappear and ... peace here and then glory), which arises from the lack of communication between partners. Of course, just as he is with her, and she is ultimately responsible for the domestic sphere, as we already know: your love is always communicating.
How to overcome this state of affairs?
inserting them into the outskirts of culture and nature, where angels do not want to step on and the gap has woman's name. The proper place which eliminates the ability to survive independently of the woman and she becomes a victim objective through a tragic sense of inevitable:
"My mother always told me:" For your children, you hold for your children. "
I could not stand for my children. I endured for the hope that change, because I, deep down, he wanted "(Words of a female victim of abuse).
